Helicopter parenting doesn’t help kids in the long run, after all, so it’s entirely possible to go too far with the monitoring. Continue reading →
To be a parent is to worry ceaselessly. Where are the kids? Are they safe? Have they been fed? What obstacles await them just around the corner? It can be so overwhelming that it makes it tough to know when action is unnecessary. Helicopter parenting doesn’t help kids in the long run, after all, so it’s entirely possible to go too far with the monitoring.
On the other hand, the internet poses a particularly nasty threat to young minds. Whether they’re being messaged by strangers or just happening upon content they’re too young to understand, kids can be significantly harmed through the use of the internet — and once you’ve let a child get hooked on unfettered internet access, it’s all but impossible to unring that bell.
Given this, a responsible parent should take action to keep their kids safe online, no matter how unpopular it temporarily makes them. But what exactly should they do, and how far should they take their monitoring? In this post, we’re going to run through some core tips for managing parental monitoring, explaining how you can get the balance right. Let’s get started.
Before we get into parental monitoring, it’s worth running through the risks children face online with a focus on what you shouldn’t worry about. To avoid getting overly strict, you need to be aware of how negligible some risks are, and how necessary others may be to internet use overall. The following, for the most part, aren’t worthy of concern:
With that noted, let’s get into the meat of the piece: some fundamental tips for monitoring your children online. If you can manage each of the following, you’ll be in a good position:
Education is key to keeping children safe online. Parents should teach their children about online safety, including the dangers of sharing personal information online and the importance of reporting any concerning behavior. The onus is on you to start them off with good habits, after all, and they won’t stick to those habits if they don’t know what they’re for.
How you should approach this will depend on how old your children are and what you’re allowing them to do online. If you’re letting them roam somewhat freely, you’ll need to arm them with the knowledge they need to make informed decisions. If you’re being very restrictive, you can be more minimal and primarily ask them to trust you.
The important thing here is to take the matter as seriously as you would any other matter of safety. Don’t be half-hearted in your requests. Explain that the internet is full of information that’s inconsistent or outright fraudulent, and that people can exploit the anonymity of the online world to lie about themselves. Tell them to be cautious and let you know when they’re not sure about something. If you can teach them skepticism, you’ll have achieved the most important feat.
Parental control software can help parents monitor and restrict their children’s online activities, including internet browsing, social media use, and app downloading. Using such a tool will allow you to block access to inappropriate content and set time limits for device usage. There are many tools like this on the marketplace (examples including Net Nanny and Qustodio), so you can find one that meets your budget and fulfills your requirements.
There are two big things to consider, though. Firstly, this software is never flawless, and sites can slip through the cracks. This means that it’s always more effective to teach your kids why it’s important to stay away from certain sites than it is to prevent them from reaching them.
Secondly, it’s easy to go overboard with restrictions, and it doesn’t usually go well. If you push too hard and limit too extensively, your kids can end up feeling unfairly hamstrung, resulting in them going to great lengths to defy your controls. And unless you can be just as controlling of what their friends can access on their computers, phones or tablets, you won’t be able to stop them from finding the things they’re looking for — so be delicate.
If you start your kids out with internet access through a computer in a public area (such as the living room or kitchen), it’ll be much easier for you to keep an eye on what they’re doing online. Knowing that you might be watching can also deter your kids from engaging in risky online behavior (viewing inappropriate content, for instance, or using sites like Omegle), and that can prove beneficial when they’re feeling particularly rebellious.
Be careful not to rely on direct oversight too much, though. You can’t always be around to watch over them, nor can you realistically prevent them from getting access to other internet-enabled devices sooner or later. Additionally, making it so strongly forbidden for them to visit certain sites will only make them more determined to do so, and they will eventually figure out how to. Due to this, you shouldn’t try to use this tactic for years to come. Instead, use it as a starting point.
Do you need to interfere with your kids’ social media accounts? Delete posts, unfollow people, report content? Not necessarily — but you should be keeping an eye on them. Your job here is to ensure that their activity is appropriate: that they’re engaging with unthreatening people, watching videos justifiably aimed at them, and staying away from dangerous groups.
If you do find something worrying on one of your kids’ accounts, your first step should be to discuss it with them. If you find adult content, for instance, ask them about the context. Did they look for it? Did one of their friends link them to it? What do they think it means? Their reaction to it will tell you everything. If they’re simply curious but confused, you can delicately field their questions. If they’re blasé way beyond their years, of course, that’s a major red flag.
Keeping communication open is essential to effective parental monitoring. Your kids should feel comfortable approaching you with any concerns or questions they have about their online activities. Growing up is difficult, and the internet — like it or not — has become an integral part of that process. If you try too hard and get mad with them too often, they’ll start to resent you for it, and it’ll only push them away from you.
So, there you have it: some key tips for monitoring your children online. If you feel guilty while watching over them, remember two things: firstly, it’s your job to protect them, however they may feel about it right now. Secondly, every parent feels guilt for the things they do and the things they don’t do. What’s important is that you do your best — and the best thing you can do is keep your kids safe online.
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